Comments on: even more confused-what should i think now?

By: albrightlesa

albrightlesa — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 16:49:25 +0000

You have basically put your stress on him men like to fix things obviously he cannot fix your financial problems.He as tried but has found out like many people that if you try to save a drowning person there is a good chance that person will frantically pull you down also.It would have been better if he would have kept his good credit and let you go bankrupt then at least you could cut up your credit cards and purchase things with his good credit.BUT it is too late for that so the best you can do is STOP looking to him as your savior it is too much on him.If you get in debt you deal with it and stop doing what is putting you there I know it is easier said than done especially when you have kids with needs but LOOK AT WHAT IT HAS DONE TO EVERYONE

By: Joanna

Joanna — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 01:18:09 +0000

Maybe he feels he has taken on too much with this relationship. You have 3 daughters and alot of debt. He tried to help you because he loves you and feels sorry for you, but at the end of the day, you are responsible for yourself and you have to grow up sometime. you obviously have no idea and are very selfish to see that this money issue has hurt him. After all it was his hard earned money that he worked hard for. What do you do with the money you earn????? Learn how to be an adult and put your daughters first. Work hard and pay himback and let him go so he can be happy.

By: Reena

Reena — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 22:51:28 +0000

He is being a very nice guy that has the hardest time breaking up the relationship because he feels guilty when you cry and tell him that you would never forgive yourself…

But essentially he is breaking up with you… he just isn’t the type
that can make a “clean cut” because he does feel responsible and although he knows that this is not going anywhere anymore he keeps saying “maybe” when his heart means to say “NO”.

Sorry… this is not what you want to hear but when a guy starts cleaning out your things and starts putting it in the garage where it will be ready for you to pick it up… it usually means Goodbye.

You are hanging on to straws… thinking just because he didn’t finish the job all at once that there might be some kind of remorse. There isn’t. He just wasn’t able to finish the job yet.

By: mikeshere

mikeshere — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 09:04:36 +0000

It does sound like he is ready to move on, I am sorry. But perhaps if he is given some space he will be willing to work it out. I will pray for you and him, God Bless.

By: Dannielle

Dannielle — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 10:29:27 +0000

That’s rough, you mentioned him being on medication, maybe that is having an affect on him, because that is pretty odd behavior. Maybe he feels like you are using him for money or something, which doesn’ sound like the case, but he might think it to be that way. I hope itworks out for you.

By: frameliner

frameliner — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 15:39:35 +0000

Why is all or most of your stuff at his house, and he had to give you money to pay bills like rent and utilities? Were you and your girls were living with him but not living with him?

Sounds good that your going to do the couples counseling but my guess is that you could probably get something out of counseling all by yourself too. Figure you out, then work on the US thing.

Good luck, and I hope your talking to your kids about all of this so they can at least know that your issues are not their fault.

By: Marilyn P

Marilyn P — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 07:01:46 +0000

you can get state [or federally] funded counseling based on a sliding scale fee, ask you doctor about it if you are depressed, as for him i would say he has moved on but he is trying to be kind to you because of the kids, but i really think he has moved on. mabey i’m wrong.

By: Hollie S

Hollie S — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 17:10:52 +0000

you have to look out for yourself and your girls now - don’t look for reassurance from him. He may or may not be there for you soon. Don’t push for him to make decisions. Just let it ride and pay him back in time. But concentrate you your girls.

By: greenlightgirl667

greenlightgirl667 — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 05:48:16 +0000

Of course this person doesn’t want to see you hurt but he probably doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Most of your daughters things are packed, as are yours. He is probably going to break up with you, is how this is sounding. I wouldn’t put all my happiness in this person and put self blame in your failure with your relationship. I wish you the best of luck for you and your children.

By: Elena

Elena — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 09:28:20 +0000

I would be working to get that 2600 back to him. Even if it is over that is a lot of money that you owe him and he shouldnt have had to foot the bill and keep on doing that all this time. Your debt has put him into debt, so keep on at work and do the overtime so you can pay him back every last cent.