How do I help a friend with low self-esteem/inferiority complex?
We both are 16 but the problem is, he still looks like he would fit in with a bunch of middle 6-7th graders. Hes a little over 5 ft I think. I dun see any problem with this but I guess he does.
Btw, I first saw his complex when we did ecstasy with a bunch of friends.
Now that I know this side of him, I can hear it in his voice when he’s normal and hints that he needs assurance and stuff. Like how we always hang out every saturday but ever friday he would ask me what I was doing the next day, instead of asking if we were hanging out.
It goes deeper than that but you have the basics. He thinks he’s below everyone else becuz of his size and kiddish looks, and is always pitying himself and looking for reassurance.
Ive thought about just telling him directly and how stupid he is for acting this way, but I dun want to make him look down on himself anymore than he already does. How would you help someone like this without the tough love approach?
-he dislikes everything about himself except his intelligence but most people don’t notice.
-I′ve tried reassuring him countless times, but it doesn’t believe me. Probably because I′m his friend and he thinks I′m supposed to say that kind of stuff.
I don’t get what’s wrong, he has plenty of friends including me. Hell, more than I do actually. He just spends too much time comparing himself to other people.
-Yes ecstasy is a narcotic and is illegal and I know the consequences of abusing it. But I don’t. I usually take it once every like 4 months. And have done it only 3 times so far. I also hate smoking and drinking so not going any further in drug use than that.